What’s The Benefits of CBD Oil?

What’s The Benefits of CBD Oil?

 


CBD is the abbreviation for cannabidiol, one of the many cannabinoids, or chemical compounds, found in marijuana and hemp. You’re probably already familiar with THC, which is another compound found in the cannabis plant.

But unlike THC, CBD is not psychoactive. In other words, it’s not what gets you stoned.

A lot of my clients have been asking about CBD oil and as I am a Neal’s Yard consultant I have some information on CBD oil if you would like you purchase some please contact me.( At Present there is a 60% off deal)  Or go to http://uk.nyrorganic.com/shop/ahappybody

Just now you can get this from my A happy body webpage 

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FAQs

CBD oil is a huge trend in the UK, so what exactly is CBD?

The use of CBD oil is hugely popular right now but its usage goes back thousands of years, originating in Asia, being brought west by the Roman empire after military campaigns and by the Greek physician Pedacius Dioscorides, who accompanied the Roman camp.

CBD is the abbreviation for cannabidiol, one of many cannabinoids, or plant chemical compounds found in both cannabis and hemp, this is what gives the plant its therapeutic properties.

What are cannabinoids?

Cannabinoids are chemical compounds that occur naturally in the human body and also in some plants (like hemp and cannabis).

How do cannabinoids work within the body?

Cannabinoids (from hemp / cannabis) interact with receptors within our bodies own endocannabinoid system (ECS) to trigger various physiological actions. The ECS plays an essential role within the body and cannabinoids are vital for it to function effectively.

When cannabinoids are produced within the body they are commonly called endocannabinoids, ‘endo’ meaning ‘internal’ or ‘within’.

Whereas when cannabinoids are produced by plants they are often called phytocannabinoids, ‘Phyto’ meaning ‘of a plant’.

I will explain the endocannabinoid system simply

The human endocannabinoid system was first discovered in the 1990’s and is a network of receptors spread throughout our entire body that control some of our most vital life functions. Including the immune system, memory, appetite, sleep pattern, mood and pain sensation. It has been described as ‘the supercomputer that regulates homeostasis in all mammals’. Simply put this means it’s always regulating functions in our body to keep us in a state of wellbeing.

Why may I need to support my endocannabinoid system?

Unfortunately, many things like pollution, poor diet, stress and lack of exercise can lead to our bodies being unable to produce our own endocannabinoids, so the ECS (endocannabinoid system) may become deficient and our health or feelings of wellbeing may deteriorate.

How does CBD oil work?

CBD and other cannabinoids found in plants are similar to our bodies own endocannabinoids, research has shown they can interact with our endocannabinoid system. Researchers have found evidence that supplementing with phytocannabinoids, such as CBD, couldhelp our endocannabinoid system to function properly, regain balance and therefore support greater wellbeing.

I’ve heard there are different forms of CBD, what’s the difference?

CBD is not the only cannabinoid (found in cannabis and hemp), over 113 different cannabinoids have been discovered in the cannabisplant, each interacts with our endocannabinoid system in different ways. CBD is the most abundant cannabinoid but the others also play a role in regulating different aspects of our wellbeing, for example CBDa is often associated with pain relief and CBDg associated helping improve sleep patterns.

What’s the difference in the strength of each CBD oil?

CBD products are labelled with either milligrams (mg) of CBD or the percentage of CBD, sometimes both. E.G. 500mg of CBD within a 10ml bottle of CBD oil is 5% strength.

  • 6% strength (600mg CBD/CBDa per 10ml) = 2.4mg CBD/CBDa per drop.
  • 8% strength (800mg CBD/CBDa per 10ml) = 3.2mg CBD/CBDa per drop.

Will CBD oil make me high or is it different to cannabis?

CBD doesn’t have the psychoactive properties of its more famous cousin THC (Tetrahydrocannabinol) found in marujuna / cannabis. To make a product legally compliant it must contain less than 0.2% THC. The CBD in the products we sell is standardised to contain less than 0.2% THC, this is a level below the amount considered to result in any psychoactive effect.

How do I take CBD oil?

Just drop the desired amount under your tongue and hold for 2-3 minutes before swallowing. If you struggle with the taste try brushing your teeth beforehand or try placing the CBD oil onto a bit of chocolate. Dropping CBD oil under the tongue (sublingually) allows the CBD to get directly into the bloodstream, via the salivary glands.

What dosage should I take?

Due to the individual characteristics of each user, such as age, weight, metabolism or concern, CBD dosage may vary; please see notes below. If you’re on prescription medication, pregnant or breastfeeding please chat to your healthcare practitioner / GP.

  • Always start on the lowest dosage as indicted on the label – 1 drop daily. If your healthcare practitioner advises you may wish to take a higher dose, make sure to split over the course of the day and build up slowly until you reach your desired effect. Please do not exceed the 160mg food supplement daily limit
  • As with all natural remedies some people may feel benefits straight away, whilst for others it may take longer. Once you find the dose that suits you it is recommended to stay at the same dosage, taking more does not increase the benefits of the CBD oil.

How should I store my CBD oil?

We would advise you store your CBD oil in a cool dark place, away from direct sunlight. During the hot summer months it may be beneficial to store it in the fridge.

Are there any side-effects if I take CBD oil?

Although there are a few potential side effects of using CBD, they are minor and often short-lived. Not everyone will experience them and the potential therapeutic benefits often out way these minor irritations. But please be aware of these potential side effects.

  • Dry mouth
  • Dizziness
  • Drowsiness
  • Reduced blood pressure
  • Delay, occasionally even inhibition of certain medicines’ effects

Can we make any health claims with CBD oil?

CBD oil is not a medical product, we sell it as a food supplement. It supports homeostasis or balance of the endocanabinoid system and may therefore support wellbeing. We cannot give out advice on using CBD oil for anything medical related. It’s always important to do your own thorough research before trying it out.

The amount of information and variety of products can be overwhelming. So how do I know what’s best for my needs?

As with most things in life not everything is equal. The quality and therefore potency of CBD products on the market varies:

  • Always look for a ‘full spectrum’ extract rather than isolate, full spectrum means it contains a wide range of other cannabinoids

alongside other plant chemicals, this means it has synergistic benefits.

  • Isolate means that one element of the plant has been extracted and everything else excluded, it is highly processed.
  • A good quality CBD producer will be able to provide technical data / lab reports for their extracts.
  • Does the extract producer grow their own plant material? Most on the market don’t, rather buying bulk from another producer.

Whereas a company that is responsible for the whole process from seed to bottle knows exactly what is in the end product and is responsible for the quality and processing of the plant material.

Can I vape CBD oil or put it one of our aromatherapy diffusers?

The CBD oil we sell is classed as a supplement and is only suitable for oral use and not to be used in a vaporiser, diffuser or for smoking.

Is CBD legal?

CBD oil is legal in the UK, if it is manufactured in a way that does not result in unacceptable levels of undesirable substances – such as THC, the psychoactive substance in cannabis, it must contain less than 0.2% THC to be legally compliant.

Can I sell CBD to under 18 year olds?

We cannot recommend CBD oil to under 18 year olds

Can I fail a drugs test when taking BioBloom CBD oil?

We suggest that pilots and members of comparable professional groups should consult their employers prior to taking Biobloom full spectrum CBD-drops.

Can I travel abroad when using BioBloom CBD oil?

The rules of the destination country apply here – in the Arab states the THC tolerance is very low, please check before travelling.

BioBloom are an international family business who are dedicated to research and production of organic hemp flowers and CBD products. They carefully develop products based on sound scientific data and cooperate with experts from phytochemistry and pharmaceutical industries.

BioBloom stand behind their products from the moment of planting the seed to the time they seal the bottle. Hand picked andprocessed organic hemp plants are gently dried for up to 36 hours at a maximum temperature of 50˚C. The seeds are cold pressed topreserve all healthy ingredients.

How is the CBD extracted in BioBloom?

BioBloom CBD oils are made using Supercritical CO2 extraction, in a certified laboratory under the strictest quality standards – this allows for plant extraction without using harmful chemicals and it also guarantees that all natural nutrients contained in the plants are preserved. Through this process they produce a CBD product closest to the natural state of the plant.

Here are some key points about CBD oil by BioBloom:

  • Quality you can trust – lab tested.
  • Organic, raw, solvent-free and Non-GM.
  • 100% natural. Vegan.
  • Designed to support a balanced Endocannabinoid System.
  • Made from the highest quality ingredients.
  • Dropper built into cap to make dosing easier.
  • CO2 Supercritical extraction method. (extracted without the use of solvents)
  • Contains a full spectrum of cannabinoids and terpenes.
  • Non-psychoactive (only contains legal trace amounts of THC)
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Dealing with Rejection

Dealing with Rejection

 
Dealing with rejection can be painful, whether it happens at work, at home, at school or in relationships.


Never allow others negative behaviours to put you off, your goals and dreams, just send them healing in the future as you will achieve great deeds by being positive, determined and loving person you are.


Rejection comes in many forms and it can be tempting to wallow in self-pity and despair when we have been rejected. Fortunately, there are things we can do that can help us handle rejection with dignity and purpose. Everyone experiences rejection – it is what we do in response that determines how we feel about ourselves. Rejection is scary, because it reminds us that we cannot control people and circumstances. Here are a few ideas of things we can do to overcome the rejection blues.

Be Aware of Your Emotions
Rejection is a form of loss, creating the sense of losing something we thought we had. Being rejected can feel like an outright violation of our expectations, which is why many of us feel offended when we are rejected. When the rejection is very painful or unexpected, it can be scary, making us feel as though the world we live in is unsafe and malevolent. When things do not go the way we expect, we often feel devastated and powerless, especially if we are very attached to a particular outcome.
We can acknowledge our loss, reminding ourselves that our feelings are never unacceptable or wrong, but they are also not entirely true. No matter how extreme or violent our feelings might seem, though, it is important to give ourselves the opportunity to experience them. Anger, sadness and disappointment are all natural responses when dealing with rejection. We can allow for our feelings, whatever they are, without holding onto them. We can let them come, and let them go.

Practice Acceptance
When rejection occurs, one of the ways many of us automatically respond is with denial. We may tell ourselves that this is not happening or that this is all a mistake that will soon be corrected. Denial is a mechanism of self-defence. We deny that something unpleasant is happening because the reality is too painful. We can gently correct ourselves by saying, “This is happening, and it will be okay. This does not mean that I am a bad person or that I have done something wrong.”

Talk to Someone You Trust
Another common impulse when dealing with rejection is to isolate and to cut ourselves off from support. This is another way that we unconsciously try to protect ourselves from more pain. Many of us equate relationships (revealing ourselves to others in work, love, family and friendships) with the disappointment that sometimes occurs in those relationships.

Take Action and Get Moving
It does not matter what we do, only that we take action and get moving. We can do dishes, pay bills, organise or finish up that work report we have been neglecting. Purposeful movement clears the mind of the stagnant energy and negative emotions that hang around when we are dealing with rejection. This is a perfect time to do something we have been putting off.

We are probably thinking, “What’s the use? I will still be miserable, and it will not change the fact that I have been dumped/passed over for that promotion/turned down by my number-one choice for college or school.” We can choose to think about it differently. We can be heartbroken in a messy living room that makes us feel even more miserable, or we can take constructive action that will likely lift our spirits and self-esteem.

Action has a wonderful way of breeding self-confidence and feelings of empowerment. You will feel less like a victim of your circumstances when you take action in an area you can actually control. Though it may sound like torture to suggest cleaning a closet after what feels like the most painful breakup in history the sooner we get moving, the better we will feel.

It is okay to resist for a while. As soon as we are ready, we can give it a try. If it still seems like an insurmountable, useless task, we can make a deal with ourselves to try it out for fifteen minutes. If we want to stop after 15 minutes, we can stop. But we usually find that the momentum of positive, productive energy created in just those 15 minutes is sufficient to make us want to keep going.

Be Kind to Yourself
One of the best times to do something nice for ourselves is when we are dealing with rejection. This serves a dual purpose: we get to do something enjoyable, and in so doing, we also prove to ourselves that we are worth the effort and attention. We can buy ourselves a special gift or get a massage, manicure and pedicure. We can set aside a day in the coming week to do whatever we want to do, whether that means browsing in a bookstore all afternoon sipping coffee, or losing ourselves in an art project. Planning ahead for “me” time brings with it the gift of something to look forward to, which makes difficult situations infinitely more bearable.

Be Kind to Someone Else
What it does mean, however, is that our thoughts colour our experiences. We have the power to use past success as evidence that future success is possible and, indeed, probable.

Rejection is a bitter pill to swallow. But its purpose is not gratuitous pain. If we have relationships with other people and if we regularly take risks, rejection is inevitable. Like any experience, rejection teaches a valuable lesson that we simply cannot learn any other way. We can always choose to see that value, although it may be difficult at first. Dealing with rejection in one area of life can teach us to deal more gracefully with our next experience of rejection in a completely different area. Lessons like these build on themselves. We can use our past experiences of rejection to make our future experiences less painful.



Whether it is a pet, a relative or a stranger, this strategy is particularly effective for coping with rejection. Focusing on someone else’s needs for a time reminds us that we are not the centre of the universe, and that our disappointments are not as devastating and all-encompassing as we make them out to be. Perhaps someone we love is ill, confined to home or hospital bed. We can ask if there is anything we might help that person with, being grateful for our health and our ability to offer help.

Feeling useful is a fail safe cure for self-pity. We can call a friend and ask how she is, without mentioning or complaining about our circumstances. Take the dog for an extra-long walk, or spend time snuggling with the cat – such small, loving actions centre us, bring us great comfort and remind us that we matter to other beings.

Reaffirm Your Successes
Rejection can make us feel as though we are failing, and can even lead us to falsely assume that not only have we failed, we are complete failures. Reminding ourselves of specific successes is a great way to remember our assets and accomplishments during a time when we are tempted to focus only on the negative. By focusing on the positive, we give it power in our minds, in our actions and ultimately in our circumstances. This does not mean that thinking positively will ensure that we never experience disappointment.

If you need help to get back on track book a private session with Derek Book Now! or Email

 
 

12 tips to help you relax & combat life’s challenges with anxiety, stress and worry.

12 tips to help you relax & combat life’s challenges with anxiety, stress and worry.

Even when things aren’t perfect or don’t seem to be working out, I choose to trust in life.

Here are some tips to help you deal with life’s challenges, which I hope will enable you to recognise and control common tensions and anxieties. It is my belief that the only way to be able to combat anxiety successfully, is to learn all you can about it and then teach yourself ways of controlling the problems and effects caused by either an anxiety attack or an anxious situation that you find yourself in.

Life Coaching with Hynotherapy can really help with anxieties, together we can get to the root cause and work on soluitions.

Watch the video and learn new coping strategies


You can book a session online here or text/call 07468119635 email derek@ahappymedium.co.uk

These tips are in no particular order and I hope that you will read them all, try them all and then use the ones that you find ‘work for you’:

1. Talk over your worry. Everyone needs to do this at different times in their life. (Choose a friend, relative or professional helper you can trust).

*The magic word here is trust! It is impossible to talk candidly to someone who you feel either does not understand or you don’t trust. If you find someone who you can trust, try to use that trust and friendship to help relieve some of your burdens.*
Some Results: You will have relief from strain and be more able to see what you can do about your problem.

2. Escape from your problem – even if only for a while. (Lose yourself for a while in a change of scene or an interest. There is no merit in “Sticking it out” and suffering).

*As I have mentioned before, I use exercise and music to relax. I also read books and surf the internet. All of these things takes me away from stressful situations and help me get my mind back to a state in which I can deal again with life.*
Some Results: Afterwards, you will be clearer in your mind and able to come back and tackle your problem.

3. use up anger by physical activity. (Channel your anger into a job that needs doing or take a long walk or even play a game).

You can book a session online here or text/call 07468119635 email derek@ahappymedium.co.uk

*Physical exercise is a great way of removing pent up aggression. Please walk away from a potential flash point. It never solves anything and only intensifies your loss as you lose either friends, family or even both. I know it is difficult but self-discipline is the only real option here.*
Some Results: You will “let go” of your anger instead of bottling it up, which causes more tension.

4. Give in to others – occasionally. (This is easier on your nervous system in the long-run and you’re the one who counts. Only children stay obstinate and defiant all the time).

*This is so difficult to do because giving in also implies weakness and submission, both of which are hard things to do. Try this one occasionally and see how you feel! If it is a good feeling then try it again (but not all the time).*
Some Results: You will feel a relief from pressure and develop a stronger sense of maturity.

5. Do something for someone else. (Even a smile or a generous word is a good start. Add to this daily).

* It sounds crazy to do this and you can not see how this will benefit you, right? Well only after you have tried it and done it and continued to for some time can you see the benefits here. But they are worth doing. You do feel more fulfilled and can make friends and build relationships as well.*

Some Results: It will help you to feel less isolated with your worry and start to turn your thoughts outwards.

You can book a session online here or text/call 07468119635 email derek@ahappymedium.co.uk

6. Deal with one thing at a time. (Select the urgent tasks first and get on with them. Forget the rest for the time being. Tension and worry makes even an ordinary day seem unbearable. This need not be a permanent state).

*This is a problem I had. When I worked as a chef offshore if I had work I had to do it all and all by myself. I felt I was indispensable and that no-one could cope without me. I never delegated and nearly had a complete breakdown as a result, as well as losing friends and alienating colleagues in the process.*

Some Results: This will help you achieve something and the other tasks will seem easier when you get around to them.

7. Try not to be a perfectionist in everything. (If you expect too much of yourself all of the time, you can create a constant state of worry and anxiety. So decide which things you do well and put your major efforts into these first).

*Oh boy! This was me. Still is if I let it (but I’m not quite such a compulsive perfectionist now). This is hard and I can not tell you how to change. You need to work this one out and fast. This would be my #1 in this list, so work on this. In the long run it really will help.*

Some Results: You will avoid an open invitation to yourself to fail and probably make life easier for yourself – and others.

You can book a session online here or text/call 07468119635 email derek@ahappymedium.co.uk

8. Try not be to critical of others. (Concentrate on other people and your own good points and try to understand and develop them).

Some Results: You will probably feel frustrated and let-down by yourself and others.

9. Develop co-operation with others. Not competition. (Give the other man a chance. If you are no longer a threat to him, he stops being a threat to you).

*This is true but I guess I never looked at things in such a black & white manner?*

Some Results: You will have less emotional or physical tension over reaching goals (real or imaginary).

10. Make yourself available to others – make the first move occasionally. (Neither push too much or withdraw too much. Feelings of rejection and neglect are very painful but are often self-imposed).
*Again this is me. Always wanting to please and feeling very rejected when things turn out differently. I get paranoid and think that people are either laughing at me or avoiding me. I guess I withdraw as an automatic protective manner.*

Some Results: At least you will know you’ve made an effort and this will build your confidence.

11. Plan your recreation time. However short. (Allow some time for a hobby or recreation. Un-planned time often becomes wasted time. Make variety part of the planning).

You can book a session online here or text/call 07468119635 email derek@ahappymedium.co.uk

*This links in nicely with some of the other tips. Try and get involved (if you can) with team sports or activities where there are other people around. I know first hand how hard this is (you will feel so much better about yourself if you can) and I am still struggling to do it myself (remember doing is not quite as easy as knowing). This is a very good tip so try it.*

Some Results: You will return to your work or your problem with a fresher outlook.

12. Learn methods of exercise and relaxation then practice them daily. (You are aiming to be in control of your body and learning how to counteract tension and anxiety).

*The best tip of them all. Sometimes though the hardest to do. It is not easy to relax when you are stressed and tense. It is better to try out different methods when you are not so stressed and tense and then use the ones that really help to relax you when you need them most. I use music and sport. It works for me so try it, what have you got to loose?*

Some Results: You will unlock tension in every part of your body and even prevent tension in the future.

If all else fails use my F bubble meditation gets the point across.

 


Don’t waste energy trying to empty your life of worrying things, when you could be filling your life with wholesome things.

You can book a session online here or text/call 07468119635 email derek@ahappymedium.co.uk

 



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Dealing with Concerns and using your circle of influence.

Dealing with Concerns and using your circle of influence.

The Circle of Influence and the Circle of concern

This is a great process to go though when you have had enough and need to sort out stuff in your head, The idea or model is taken from Stephen Conveys The 7 habits of highly effective people 1989.
We all have concerns in life some we can influence and some we cant in the present, that can change in time. I have learnt though my own life lessons that we cant always change our concerns, especially in politics or the past, people dying, the meaning of Life and so on …but when we Rewind and slow down, then Review this is a great process to look at when we review what we can influence, before we Re engage in life.

All of us have a wide range of concerns in our lives – our housing, our health, our friends and family, the environment, weight issues, animal rights, sex and drugs and rock and roll, the universe of our concerns can go on and on, there are some things we can influence and some things we can only stay concerned about. we do have a choice.

Now we have a choice about where we focus our attention and energy. Not that I am saying to eat wild mushrooms by the way, as you will go mad and that wont help you, but when we take control and focus on your circles of influence and look at what you can influence, we are then ready to Re engage.

Worry Only About the Problems in Your Circle of Influence.

Once you have had a look and sorted out in your head and divided all the concerns in to circles of concern and circles of influence.
Take a break, go for a walk, chill out. and ask
What really is worth my energy?
Who can I influence?
When can I see them?
How will I approach them?
Let the questions and answers, solutions come into your head. Be relaxed and feel good about the fact your moving forward now.

The author and leadership guru Stephen Covey encourages us to only focus on concerns that we have control over. He outlines the “circle of concerns” as all of the stuff that worries us – and then a smaller “circle of influence” (within the larger “circle of concerns”) that only contains stuff that we can actually control.

His point, of course, is that we should only spend our energy on stuff that we can do something about. Focus only on problems that lie within your “circle of influence.”

That is not an easy thing to do at times, but better that, than giving in to negativity.
We are creative and we all have passions, core values that drive us forward look at the other blogs and use all the tools, tips advice, learn and take action.

If you need help, book a life coaching session with Derek! Click here to set it up!

Your energy becomes fractured and depleted as you start to obsess over details and situations that are beyond your control. Ultimately  your ideas and projects will suffer. So don’t waste time on things and situations you cant change in the present moment, focus on what you can change, Your attitude first to a positive one!

Use only positives in your circle of influence, set some goals to influence what you NEED not just what you WANT and remember enthusiasm attracts, enthusiasm back to you.
Let stop the moaning and be happy today, lets start a happy virus one that is a total pain in the tummy, where we can’t stop laughing. There nothing more infectious than the sound of laughter. Make others smile today!

Positive self talk for the festive season

Positive self talk for the festive season

Positive self talk for the festive season


It gets everywhere! On television and radio, in shops, newspapers and magazines, on
the internet and even all the outdoor decorations. We can’t escape it. The holidays are
coming!

It seems that everyone else has a wonderful family time…..except me? This a common statement from my clients at this time of year.
Is this a fact or opinion?

Perhaps a minority of people are fortunate enough to have a lovely family time. The majority have some good family times mixed
with quite a lot of work, stress and financial burden. Family stresses can be greatly exaggerated and become intolerable over the holiday period when everyone is forced to spend time together, trying to keep things cheerful.

For others, it is a very lonely time. A reminder that we are alone, out of contact with, or without family. If we have friends, then they will probably be spending time with their families and have little spare time for us. Everything seems to be closed on the day itself: shops, libraries, cafes and all other meeting points or places where we might be in contact with others.

So what can we do? How can we get through this time?

Maybe even change things so that we can feel better about it.
If we change the way we think about it, or change what we do – then we will change the way we feel. If we carry on thinking and doing what we’ve always done, then nothing will change and we will have a miserable holiday time.

Use the an alternative cycle to decide how you can make things better.

My alternative cycle:

  • How can I think differently?
  • What can I do differently?
  • How will I feel if I think/act differently?

Get help speak to others, write down lists of what you could do, even volunteer for a charity and spend time helping others.

Here is a good link to down load some information to help click here or go to https://www.getselfhelp.co.uk/docs/Holidays.pdf

Use positive self talk I encourage my clients to use Positive statements.

Positive statements encourage us and help us cope through distressing times. We can say these encouraging words to ourselves and be our own personal coach.  We have all survived some very distressing times, and we can use those experiences to encourage us through current difficulties.  Examples of coping thoughts might be:

  • Stop, and breathe.
  • I can do this.
  • This will pass.
  • I can be anxious/angry/sad and still deal with this.
  • I have done this before, and I can do it again.
  • This feels bad, it’s a normal body reaction – it will pass.
  • This feels bad, and feelings are very often wrong.
  • These are just feelings; they will go away.
  • This won’t last forever.
  • Short term pain for long term gain.
  • I can feel bad and still choose to take a new and healthy direction.
  • I don’t need to rush, I can take things slowly.
  • I have survived before, I will survive now.
  • I feel this way because of my past experiences, but I am safe right now.
  • It’s okay to feel this way, it’s a normal reaction.
  • Right now, I am not in danger.  Right now, I’m safe.
  • My mind is not always my friend.
  • Thoughts are just thoughts – they’re not necessarily true or factual.
  • This is difficult and uncomfortable, but it’s only temporary.
  • I can use my coping skills and get through this.
  • I can learn from this and it will be easier next time.
  • Keep calm and carry on.

Don’t let the Festive season get you down, be proactive if you need help book a session and I will help you plan and set some new goals to achieve a wonderful Christmas.

Derek McGillivray

www.ahappymedium.co.uk

Finding Meaning & Purpose in life.

Finding Meaning & Purpose in life.

Finding Meaning & Purpose

 

Finding Meaning & Purpose

Many of us spend a lot of time in the pursuit of happiness, striving towards a goal of a better paid job, greater status, or obtaining the latest possession. An unfulfilled life might mean an unhealthy and unhappy life, but that’s not necessarily the case.

However, lack of meaning and purpose can result in anxiety, depression and low self-esteem.

Lack of Purpose.

There have been, and still are, times when terrible events happen to a community or a country, and our lives are shaken to the core.

What really matters at those times?

We hear about the community spirit of the London Blitz, of that shared purpose of coming together and working towards a common goal, helping others and contributing to the “war effort”.

Modern life can lack that community spirit and togetherness, and we can wander aimlessly through the routine of daily life, looking for something we don’t even know we’re missing.

The Pursuit of Happiness

The pursuit of happiness can lead us to feel stressed, frustrated, depressed, anxious.

Happiness is usually about trying to satisfy our wants and needs – looking towards ourselves, an inward-looking focus.

We can learn from the rich and famous that money, fame and possessions often don’t go hand in hand with happiness.

Search for Meaning

Where are you heading?

 

Would you start out on a year-long journey to an unknown destination?

Or would you ask questions about the journey, and about the destination?

Finding purpose and fulfilment is more about giving, to others, to the community, to the environment, to the world. We often become more outward focused to find meaning and purpose. In giving, in finding purpose, we find fulfilment and satisfaction, but not necessarily happiness…. although it can be a by-product.

Finding purpose gives us exactly that – a purpose to go on in spite of life circumstances.

Viktor Frankl found meaning and purpose even as a Nazi concentration camp prisoner. He noticed that those fellow prisoners lacking a sense of purpose gave up and died more quickly than those with purpose.

Those with purpose were the people more likely to survive – they looked back on their lives with a sense of satisfaction and looked forward to future achievements. Frankl found his purpose in helping his fellow prisoners to find meaning and purpose, even in those extreme conditions of suffering.

For example, the scientist who decided he wanted to finish his book, and the father who desperately wanted to be reunited with his child (safely) overseas.

Frankl found that even in extreme suffering, we can change the way we think about that situation, to give us a sense of purpose.

Find YOUR purpose

In order to find your purpose, try doing and experiencing different things. Find your passion! You will know when you find it, from how you feel, and that sense of fulfilment and deep satisfaction.

Ask yourself what do you really enjoy doing?

What is your passion? What really inspires you? What are you really skilled at?

What do you want to be remembered for? What do you want to be your legacy?

Be open minded and flexible in how you think about things.

Don’t discount anything! We often have several different purposes, or life values.

For example: Being a good wife and mother, being a writer, being a teacher.

Each one can give you that sense of fulfilment.

Meaning and purpose can change over time.

Ask yourself how important certain aspects of your life are. Which of these (or others) are MOST important to you? Score them on a scale of 0 – 5 with 0 being not at all important, and 5 being most important.

  • Relationships: partner, children, parents, siblings, friends etc
  • Work and career
  • Education and achievement
  • Spirituality
  • Connecting with nature
  • Helping others
  • Caring for the environment
  • Health living / lifestyle choice
  • Caring for animals

You may find that you have several life values or purposes.

You might find it useful to identify the 1 or 2 that are MOST important to you. Those you feel most passionate about. You have found your life’s purpose!

One of the sites I use to help with my Life coaching clients is

www.getselfhelp.co.uk

When I do a life coaching session, I ask you what your life purpose is, goals etc and very often my clients get confused and lose their way in life and this is useful to help you find that purpose or goal.

If you need help, book a life coaching session and let me help you find that happy medium in life.

Derek holds Diplomas in Life Coaching, Mindfulness based Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) advanced, Past life & this life regression, Hypnotherapy, also hold certificates in Reiki spiritual healing, Advanced & Basic counselling. Is fully insured and follows national operational and ethical guidelines with in the laws of the UK.

Derek is often asked to do Motivational & Spiritual Workshops, Psychic shows and events with music from the past present & future.

His motto is ” Enlightening others to succeed through life’s challenges “