Dealing with Concerns and using your circle of influence.

Dealing with Concerns and using your circle of influence.

The Circle of Influence and the Circle of concern

This is a great process to go though when you have had enough and need to sort out stuff in your head, The idea or model is taken from Stephen Conveys The 7 habits of highly effective people 1989.
We all have concerns in life some we can influence and some we cant in the present, that can change in time. I have learnt though my own life lessons that we cant always change our concerns, especially in politics or the past, people dying, the meaning of Life and so on …but when we Rewind and slow down, then Review this is a great process to look at when we review what we can influence, before we Re engage in life.

All of us have a wide range of concerns in our lives – our housing, our health, our friends and family, the environment, weight issues, animal rights, sex and drugs and rock and roll, the universe of our concerns can go on and on, there are some things we can influence and some things we can only stay concerned about. we do have a choice.

Now we have a choice about where we focus our attention and energy. Not that I am saying to eat wild mushrooms by the way, as you will go mad and that wont help you, but when we take control and focus on your circles of influence and look at what you can influence, we are then ready to Re engage.

Worry Only About the Problems in Your Circle of Influence.

Once you have had a look and sorted out in your head and divided all the concerns in to circles of concern and circles of influence.
Take a break, go for a walk, chill out. and ask
What really is worth my energy?
Who can I influence?
When can I see them?
How will I approach them?
Let the questions and answers, solutions come into your head. Be relaxed and feel good about the fact your moving forward now.

The author and leadership guru Stephen Covey encourages us to only focus on concerns that we have control over. He outlines the “circle of concerns” as all of the stuff that worries us – and then a smaller “circle of influence” (within the larger “circle of concerns”) that only contains stuff that we can actually control.

His point, of course, is that we should only spend our energy on stuff that we can do something about. Focus only on problems that lie within your “circle of influence.”

That is not an easy thing to do at times, but better that, than giving in to negativity.
We are creative and we all have passions, core values that drive us forward look at the other blogs and use all the tools, tips advice, learn and take action.

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Your energy becomes fractured and depleted as you start to obsess over details and situations that are beyond your control. Ultimately  your ideas and projects will suffer. So don’t waste time on things and situations you cant change in the present moment, focus on what you can change, Your attitude first to a positive one!

Use only positives in your circle of influence, set some goals to influence what you NEED not just what you WANT and remember enthusiasm attracts, enthusiasm back to you.
Let stop the moaning and be happy today, lets start a happy virus one that is a total pain in the tummy, where we can’t stop laughing. There nothing more infectious than the sound of laughter. Make others smile today!

Itera

Itera

Blog About ITeraCare Terahertz Device

Hi and welcome to this blog on the Itera care Devices.

Both Angela my wife and I are Independent Business Owners of PRIFE who make the Itra care devices. Below are some links and video explaining more about the Itera care devices we use and have had great results with our clients.

A great Video explaining about the Terahertz devices.

 

iTeraCare – The Greatest Wealth Is Health from EF Production on Vimeo.

If you would like to try out the device or become a distributor book an appointment with Derek or Angela Tel 07468119635 or email derek@ahappymedium.co.uk

Please note there are a number of Fake devices out there, please only buy from Independent Business Owners of PRIFE as they are the only official retailers/sellers of this product which is guaranteed for 1 year!

 

Facebook links

National groups

iTeraCare Health

iTeraCare Wave Therapy – Testimonies & Support

This is our local group called Who can Help 

Some useful files

How to use the blower

Scientific explanation of itracare Wand 

Charged Water

Detoxification Fads: Is There False Hope?

Detoxification Fads: Is There False Hope?

Detoxification Fads: Is There False Hope?


Detoxification Fads: Is There False Hope?

In recent decades there has been a trend in the fads of dieting, and it is no different in the world of detoxification advocates. For those who continue to push detoxification diets there are a whole range of issues that they are not thinking about. For example, before one continues or starts a detox diet then everything about that person must be taken into consideration: his or her current diet, weight, current state of health, as well as body size and age. There may be some type of benefits that certain people experience by performing a detoxification diet in their lives, but let’s look at the ways in which there is false hope with the issue of detoxification:

1: Detoxification Will Not Cure You!

There are many people who are suffering from major diseases and sickness, like certain types of cancer or other incurable diseases. However, the detoxification world makes everything out to be so simple that they put too much weight on some of the benefits of detox diets. If a person has been suffering from lung cancer for quite some time and sees advertisements for a total body detoxification and restoration product, then he or she may easily buy into the false hope that is being presented.

Even though there are many benefits that a detox plan can help with, individuals must realize that detoxifying your body will not help with any incurable diseases, types of cancers, and other ailments. Even though detoxification advertisements may make the issue out to be that detox drugs and therapies are the wonder drug of the century, this idea is certainly not true!

2: Detoxification Will Not Lose Weight for You!

Another issue that many people need to take a step back and realize is that detoxification diets will not help you lose weight unless you change your lifestyle. Even though there are some advocates of detoxification systems that pretty much say everything to the contrary, weight loss will only take place if you give yourself a healthy change and lifestyle for the better.

An example of this would be someone who is overweight but continues to eat at the fast-food restaurant that is all over the city. For him or her a detoxification system may be needed, however, it won’t automatically help him or her to lose weight overnight! On the contrary, fast food needs to be eliminated in that diet, and only then will be experience true weight loss.

All in all, it seems as though the detoxification diets are truly a fad that needs to go away. Even though they are a good system for those who already have a healthy lifestyle and are not sick, it is so easy to understand how advertisements of different detoxification systems can emit false hope in the dark of the night. If you truly want a healthy body then you must strive for it because there is certainly no miracle trick, like the detox fads, that will accomplish that for you!

Being diabetic I have tried many diets and fads, but it not all about the body you need to look at your mind, and your mental wellbeing. To many of us get hooked in to buy that new supplement, diet, book and so on and often spend £100s on stuff you never read as you don’t event try to change your lifestyle that creates the problem in the first place.

I remember going to a weight watchers meeting years ago and the teacher had a pack of weight watchers’ biscuits, 24 points she said, I put my hand up its only 2points a biscuit, she looked at me with her glaring eyes and said would you only eat one or are you like me that would eat the whole packet.

I was honest and said I would also eat the whole packet. So, the point is, its learnt behaviours and creating new behaviours more positive ones and healthier ones that do work, that really make a difference.

There are of course the holistic approaches, that do work or can be used as an alternative, I have always believed, we need to work with the NHS and doctors and together we can help our clients to deal with a variety of health and wellness issues.

There are many services we offer from Reiki healing, counselling, life coaching, Access Bars, NLP, Hypnotherapy, regression, TFT and many more.

Instead of just popping a pill or new supplement, why not come for a session and see how we can help you overcome your challenges and find the root cause of your issues or the negative learnt behaviours you have created, yes you! As the only person that can help you is yourself, but we can give you the tools to succeed.

Book a session now and get back on that road to recovery!

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DEPRESSION Kills

DEPRESSION Kills

DEPRESSION Kills

 

DEPRESSION Kills

We hear reports around the globe of the many souls that suffer depression, because of overwhelming stress. With wars, poverty, and violence going on around us is it any wonder that depression is an issue? Statistics has proven that depression links to increased heart attacks and heart disease.

Researchers have not proved that depression is the cause of heart disease, but they do feel it is a contribution. Depression is also the root for suicidal increase. Yet the fatal mistake that doctors make is over medicating the patient.

Medications not only suppress the problem, but it contributes to medical issues. The result, the problem is still there. Everyday studies are finding new information and yet the information is often tossed to the backseat while traditional treatments continue.

New studies reveal that in contrast, intellectual and in depth, research coupled with insight helps scientist understand depression. After study the mental illness, closely they concluded in one study that depression is possibly linked to existing heart diseases.

With premature death-related to heart disease caused by premature changes in women. In other words, postmenopausal issues were said to be linked. After careful research, it was shown that antidepressant drugs might cause more harm to patients.

Observers that watched these women claimed that women were at higher risk of heart attacks while inducing antidepressants. The Archives of Internal Medicines after conducting surveys claimed that more than 90,000 women over the age of fifty and out of 16 percent suffered major depression.

This was half the women, and this half was taking antidepressants. The researchers continued their studies and found that postmenopausal women suffered depression, and because of taking antidepressants, over half the women were at risk of death related to heart diseases.

In 2003, new researchers concluded that the percentage of women at risk would also be subject to fractured bones, and that more than 8,000 women over 65 were prescribed medications and the medicines had affected the central nervous system. Researchers deduced that after taking prescribed drugs for five years the women were noticeably showing risks of fracturing bones, and those that did not take the drugs lived healthier lives.

After careful studies researchers concluded that, the prescribed drugs were the linking cause of psychical symptoms.

To reduce depression, one must exercise, eat healthy, write in journals, and use self-induced analytic profiling and evaluation of self. It is extremely important that a person come to understand their handicap and deal with it.

More studies have shown that when the spine is out of alignment, or injured that it links to depression, which is often caused by stress. Often when we visit our Chiropractor, he/she can help us to get our spine back in alignment, which has proven to relieve stress and depression.

Despite the studies that concluded that antidepressants could put a patient at risk, doctors around the globe, still take out their prescription pads and start writing. Often the problem is ignored, and blame is placed on the patients, while the doctors continue prescribing.

Now you must ask the question, are you at risk? If so, you need to take care that you consult with the proper physician. Ask him to monitor your issues carefully and sway him away from prescribing antidepressants.

Stay alert to your mental health and avoid floundering, as this contributes to depression. There are solutions to any problems that will work for you. Get out of the house and socialize. Take up a sport that you may enjoy. Read a damn good book or write one yourself. Writing is a gift, an art, and a contribution to Freedom of Speech; let the words flow.

As I analysed this distraction, I concluded, that depression is a mask of broken memories backed with links to medical issues formed and ignored. The spinal and nervous system are remarkably relative if not constituting the main cause of this distraction. What happens is people that suffer fail to exercise, sit straight, bend appropriately, and so forth. The result, the spine is dislocated. When the spine is out of line, problems will arise.

Having suffered myself from back issues I know that if my back is out of alignment, I do get grumpy, moody, and frustrated. I know some of the pain killers I was on were having effect on my mental health and I was not really moving forward, it was not till I took a more holistic approach all these years ago, that I started moving forward.

Depression can kill only if you let it!

However, you should know that medication may be only one part of the treatment puzzle.  You may also need to engage in talk therapy or join a support group in order to alleviate your symptoms.  The good news is that the prognosis is good for those who’ve been diagnosed with depression.

There are of course the holistic approaches, that can work with your drugs or can be used as an alternative, I have always believed, we need to work with the NHS and doctors and together we can help our clients to deal with anxiety.

There are many services we offer from Reiki healing, counselling, life coaching, Access Bars, NLP, Hypnotherapy, regression, TFT and many more..

Instead of just popping a pill why not come for a session and see how we can help you over come your challenges and find the root cause of your issues or the negative learnt behaviours you have created, yes you! As the only person that can help you is yourself, but we can give you the tools to succeed.

Book a session now and get back on that road to recovery!
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I Hold Diplomas in Life Coaching, Mindfulness based Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) advanced, Past life & this life regression, Hypnotherapy, also hold certificates in Reiki spiritual healing, advanced counselling. I am fully insured and follow national operational and ethical guidelines with in the laws of the UK.

Derek is often asked to do Motivational & Spiritual Workshops, Psychic shows and events with music from the past present & future.

His motto is ” Enlightening others to succeed through life’s challenges “

Combating Anxiety

Combating Anxiety

Combating Anxiety:  Will a Pill Do the Trick?

At certain points in your life, you might have been plagued with worry.  It might have been in the wake of beginning a marriage, starting a new career, or caring for a sick child.  The worry might have affected you not only emotionally but physically as well.  You might have experienced feelings of uneasiness, faintness, or breathing troubles.

There are degrees of severity when it comes to anxiety.  For instance, it can be mild, lasting only a day or two, or severe, lasting an entire month.  You might experience generalized anxiety disorder or something more specific such as phobias, panic, or post-traumatic stress disorder.

Anxiety might be treated with an anti-depressant or an anti-anxiety medication.  Generally speaking, there are three categories of anti-depressants:  selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors or SSRIs; tricyclics; and monoamine oxidase inhibitors or MAOIs.   SSRIs include Paxil, Prozac, and Zoloft.

These anti-depressants often have fewer side-effects than the older generation of anti-depressants.  Initially, you might feel nervous taking SSRIs, but the feeling often disappears after a few weeks.  One of the most important side-effects of these drugs is sexual dysfunction, which can often be corrected by changing the dosage.

Tricyclics tend to have side effects such as sleepiness, dizziness, and weight gain.  They are older than the SSRIs, so there has been more research conducted on them.  Meanwhile, MAOIs can cause a reaction if mixed with certain foods and drinks, such as cheese and wine.  These reactions can include increased blood pressure and other life-threatening problems.

Side-effects of anti-anxiety medications include fatigue, confusion, or drowsiness.    The medications may be taken two or three times a day or just when needed.  Dosage starts low then increases until symptoms disappear.  The amount of medication prescribed varies according to symptoms and a person’s body chemistry.   Doctors generally believe that you should not drink alcohol while taking anti-anxiety medication because the combination can create a life-threatening situation.

Because the medication can lead to dependence, the drugs are usually prescribed for only days or weeks at a time.  In fact, a user might be directed to take the medication only when symptoms of anxiety occur.  In some cases, individuals suffering from anxiety may need treatment for an extended period.

If you begin taking anti-anxiety medication, it is important that you stay on it until the doctor recommends that you stop taking it.  If you stop abruptly, you may experience anxiety, dizziness, or loss of appetite.  Common forms of anxiety medication include Valium, Ativan, and Xanax.

At times, physicians may prescribe beta-blockers to combat anxiety.  While beta-blockers such as propanolol may be used to deal with heart damage, they have also emerged as an effective treatment for social anxiety.  If you face a stressful situation, such as a job interview, your physician may give you a beta-blocker that can keep your palms from sweating, your head from swelling, and treat other symptoms of anxiety.

There are certain steps you should take before you begin a drug regimen for anxiety.  For instance, you should do your homework on the drug.  Find out what side-effects it causes, and determine whether you can live with those side-effects.  Also, you’ll need to inform your doctor of any over-the-counter medications you are using.  Be sure to find out how long you will have to take the drug.  You should realize that if you decide to stop taking the drug, you could find symptoms of anxiety reappearing.

If you’ve been diagnosed with anxiety, it can be a daunting experience.  You may not know where to go or who to turn to.  However, it’s best if you begin your search for treatment with your family physician, who can refer you to a psychiatrist if need be.  While any type of anxiety medication can lead to side-effects, many people report good experiences, particularly with SSRIs.  By working closely with your physician, you can find the medication that’s appropriate for you.

However, you should know that medication may be only one part of the treatment puzzle.  You may also need to engage in talk therapy or join a support group in order to alleviate your symptoms.  The good news is that the prognosis is good for those who’ve been diagnosed with anxiety.

There are of course the holistic approaches, that can work with your drugs or can be used as an alternative, I have always believed, we need to work with the NHS and doctors and together we can help our clients to deal with anxiety.

There are many services we offer from Reiki healing, counselling, life coaching, Access Bars, NLP, Hypnotherapy, regression, TFT and many more..

Instead of just popping a pill why not come for a session and see how we can help you over come your challenges and find the root cause of your issues or the negative learnt behaviours you have created, yes you! As the only person that can help you is yourself, but we can give you the tools to succeed.

Book a session now and get back on that road to recovery!
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Behaviours and Self Determination

Behaviours and Self Determination

Behaviours and Self Determination

 

Some people struggle with developing skills because of behaviours developed from influences over the years. When they struggle with pre-structured behaviours or genetically related behaviours it often makes it a harder struggle to build self-determination. Usually with some help, a good mentor, counsellor, etc, the person can develop skills. It may take longer, but it is worth the wait.

A person’s behaviour towards a situation could also affect the way others see them. Their attitude towards others could also affect their behaviour as well. One’s attitude needs to be adjusted for one to develop and change their self-determination. A person could be assessed in any situation to understand what they are going through for one to understand them in any way. May be a sort of group therapy may also help so as the teacher can pick up on any feelings you may have when discussing matters.

Some people may feel better if they converse about things first to others and listen to others and their issues or problems they may have or problems they seem to face in everyday life. In a child it could be something that has happened to them emotionally or mentally. No one knows unless these issues are raised. If a child has a problem at home maybe the child feels better telling a complete stranger i.e., Counsellor so as they can understand from the way they may see things rather than talk to a relative. There may be a lot the person may want to say and may be a bit overwhelmed when talking to someone they know. They may have a lot to say and feel nervous in front of someone. For example, you may want to feel less anxious or tired and therefore a session in counselling may be of help to you in some way or another. Counselling may also help in other ways if need be.

Considering the cognitive approach, motivation sometimes crosses over the lines of theory. For instance, implicit motives can set in motion or cause someone unknowingly to react to something when the person is unaware of his or her intentions. By training the mind to learn while focusing on the objective, you can help one to reform unconstructive behaviours. Sometimes counsellors will use priming methods to measure the patient’s contained memory. The process involves scrambling letters. Once the letters are jumbled the entity is asked to choose some words from the letters. The letters in the first instance should relate to success while in the second instance it should relate to relationship.

During these tests patients that chose the success often showed higher degrees of motivation than those that were confined to relationships. Each party during these tests is often prepared with success-related terms or words. You might try the priming methods at home to see if your child can progress and build his or her motivation.

Aside from the priming method, you have other methods to consider helping your child develop motivation and self-determination. It is a proven fact that we often develop behaviours whether consciously or not, and in time unconscious influences that enforced the behaviours upon us will display themselves in our behaviour. We must constantly stay on guard to defend our human rights and to make sure that others are not influencing our behaviours.

Another good strategy that you can use is the pro and con measurement test. This test will help your child see the benefits of balance, good skills, motivation, etc, and see the consequences of the cons. It is an effective therapeutic strategy that works.

If you need help to change or delete bad learnt behaviours or want to learn and move forward.

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I Hold Diplomas in Life Coaching, Mindfulness based Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) advanced, Past life & this life regression, Hypnotherapy, also hold certificates in Reiki spiritual healing, Advanced counselling. I am  fully insured and follow national operational and ethical guidelines with in the laws of the UK.

My motto is ” Enlightening others to succeed through life’s challenges “