Death is Not The End

Death is Not The End

by | Sep 13, 2025 | Body, Mind, Soul

Death is not the end

Death Is Not the End: Healing Your Heart After Loss

By Derek McGillivray – A Happy Medium

Grief is something none of us are ever truly prepared for.
One moment life feels steady… and the next, it can be turned upside down by the loss of someone we love.

Recently, one of my clients lost her husband. She described feeling like she was walking through fog — broken-hearted, numb, and unsure how to move forward.

I wrote the following poem for her — and for anyone going through loss — as a reminder that death is not the end… and love never leaves us.

 A Healing Poem

When love is deep, it never dies,
It lingers softly, like the skies.
Though hands let go, and voices fade,
The bond you shared will never fray.

He walks beside you, day by day,
In whispered winds, in sunlit ray.
In quiet moments, when tears fall,
His love will gently hear your call.

Grief may ache, but time will show,
The seeds of love still bloom and grow.
Though paths divide, hearts intertwine,
His soul is yours, and yours is mine.

So take each step with gentle grace,
He shines through every sacred space.
Not gone, just moved—his spirit near,
Forever loved, forever here.

Understanding Grief

Grief can show up in so many ways — sadness, anger, guilt, numbness, or even laughter at old memories.
It’s not linear. Some days you may feel strong; others you may crumble. And that’s okay.

Here are a few gentle truths to hold onto:

  •  There is no “right” way to grieve. Everyone’s journey is unique.

  • There is no time limit on grief. Healing takes as long as it takes.

  •  It’s okay to ask for help — grief is heavy, and you don’t have to carry it alone.

  • Your loved one’s spirit and love remain — even if their physical presence is gone.

Holistic Ways to Support Your Healing

When you’re grieving, your mind, body, and soul are all affected. Holistic therapies can gently help you cope and find moments of peace as you move forward:

  • Reiki & Energy Healing — releases emotional blockages and brings deep relaxation

  • Reflexology or Foot Whispering — grounds your energy and calms your nervous system

  • Mindfulness & Meditation — creates safe spaces to feel and process emotions

  • Massage & Aromatherapy — nurtures the body when words aren’t enough

Holistic healing doesn’t erase grief… but it can bring balance back to your system, helping you find your feet again as you gently rebuild your life.

You Are Not Alone

Grief can feel isolating — but you are not alone, and support is out there whenever you need it.

Here are some wonderful organisations offering free bereavement help:

Moving Forward, Gently

Death is not the end.
It is simply a change of form.
The love you shared still lives within you — always.

If you would like gentle support, or to explore healing therapies to help you through this time, I am here for you.

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You don’t have to walk this path alone.
Take your time.
Breathe.
And remember — love never leaves. 

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Together, we can turn anger into peace, and forgiveness into freedom.

999 portals

999 portals

by | Sep 9, 2025 | Body, Mind, News, Soul

The 999 Portal: Spirit’s Awakening Messages for Humanity

The 999 Portal: Spirit’s Awakening Messages for Humanity 

On the 9th of September 2025, we entered a 999 portal — a moment of profound spiritual significance. In numerology, 999 represents completion, endings, and the opening of a new chapter. It is also the vibration of awakening, global change, and stepping into higher service.

Over the past weeks, Spirit has been giving me visions — and today, they feel more connected than ever. I want to share them with you in full, because what’s unfolding in the world right now echoes them in uncanny ways.

Visions from Spirit

Rombo Quartz and Free Energy
I was shown crystals I call rombo quartz, filled with geometric codes. The message was clear: these are carriers of stored energy — a form of free energy that humanity will one day harness.

Med Beds and Healing
I saw healing chambers, often called med beds. They are real. They work with our natural energy fields, restoring balance, vitality, and harmony. Spirit says they will be rolled out when humanity is ready to use them responsibly.

Guardians of Ancient Knowledge
My visions took me to the Terracotta Army in China. But instead of statues guarding an emperor, I felt them as guardians of ancient wisdom and hidden technologies. They are protecting this knowledge until humanity can approach it with love, not greed.

Ships at Sea – Nations United
One night I saw fleets from every navy at sea, moving together — not for war, but for unity. It was a vision of nations coming together for the greater good. Spirit told me: even long-debated questions, like the nature of the Earth, will soon be answered in ways that unite us instead of divide us.

1789 – History Repeats
I kept being pulled to the year 1789. In France, that was the Revolution — people rising against corruption. In America, it was the beginning of the Constitution and Washington’s presidency — the foundation of democracy and liberty.

And now? In perfect synchronicity, the French government has collapsed, echoing that revolutionary cycle. Spirit is showing us: history is repeating, and we are at the cusp of another global reset.

The USA and Big Pharma
I was shown truths around vaccines and Big Pharma. Spirit’s message was: do not meet this with fear. Humanity has been deceived, yes, but the “good ones” knew, and much harm was prevented. The truth will surface, and when it does, it will awaken us further.

Antarctica & the Oceans
The flat Earth debate is a distraction. The real mysteries lie beyond Antarctica and beneath the seas. These are the glue — the hidden truths that will one day bring unity. I sense structures, crystalline energies, and technologies preserved under the oceans, waiting to return.

The Aquarian Age
And through it all, one word echoes: Aquarian. The Age of Aquarius. This is the time of collective awakening, higher consciousness, and unity. Earth is a special planet, and it will not be allowed to be destroyed.

The 999 Portal Meaning

Today’s 999 portal confirms everything Spirit has shown me:

  • Old cycles are ending.

  • Corruption and deception are collapsing.

  • Truths are surfacing.

  • Humanity is being called into its higher awakening.

Spirit’s reminder is simple: Conserve your energy. Don’t get lost in fear, anger, or drama. Rest, align with love, and trust the process.

A Collective Reading – 9 Cards for the 9th

To mark this 999 portal, I pulled 9 cards:

  • 5 Tarot cards — messages of cycles ending, awakening, and new opportunities rising.

  • 3 “What’s the Craic?” oracle cards — a reminder of our roots, humour, and resilience as we face change.

  • 1 final card — Spirit’s seal of confirmation.

 I’ll share the full meanings of these cards at the end of my YouTube video, so make sure you watch right through to the finish.

 Final Message

The Earth is awakening. Guardians are watching. Hidden truths are stirring. We are in the middle of a global reset — just as in 1789, but on a higher, spiritual scale.

The 999 portal is our reminder: the old is ending, and a new chapter is being written.

 If you’d like to explore your own gifts, join me at my Spiritual Development Course in Elgin on Saturday 14th September.
Full details: www.ahappymedium.co.uk/events

I also have Zoom sessions available this week if you’d like to begin your journey from home. Stay awake. Stay aligned. The signs are everywhere.

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Dealing with Anger using forgiveness

Dealing with Anger using forgiveness

by | Sep 8, 2025 | Mind, Soul

Dealing with Anger, Using Forgiveness.

Anger, Forgiveness, and the Power of Letting Go

Someone once said, “Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”
It’s a powerful image — and one that speaks to how many of us live our lives.

Anger itself isn’t “bad.” It’s a natural human emotion. In fact, it can even be useful. If someone cuts you off in traffic, or if a boundary has been crossed, anger alerts you that something’s wrong. But the real danger comes when we hold on to it.

When anger lingers for days, weeks, or even years, it doesn’t punish the other person. It punishes us.

How Anger Affects Us

  • Physically: Anger raises blood pressure, disrupts sleep, affects digestion, and weakens the immune system. Over time, it can contribute to serious health issues like heart disease and anxiety disorders.

  • Emotionally: It clouds judgment, fuels regret, and creates a constant sense of heaviness.

  • Relationally: Angry words said in the moment can damage trust and relationships for far longer than the outburst itself.

The truth is, your body keeps the score. Anger doesn’t just live in your head — it shows up in your chest, your gut, your heart, and your spirit.

The Cure: Forgiveness

Forgiveness doesn’t mean what happened was okay. It doesn’t excuse the action or let someone off the hook.

Forgiveness simply means: “I will not let this control me anymore.”

You can forgive the person, but not always the action. The only one who can forgive the action is them. But by forgiving, you free yourself. Forgiveness lowers stress, improves sleep, strengthens relationships, and brings peace back into your life.

A Simple Beach Meditation

Here’s a practice you can try right now to release anger and find forgiveness:

  1. Close your eyes and picture yourself standing on a beach — maybe Hopeman, here in Moray. The tide is out, the sun is shining, and you’ve got a stick in your hand.

  2. Draw a big circle in the sand. Inside that circle, imagine placing all the people, places, and situations that have made you angry. Add misunderstandings, regrets, or even harsh words you’ve said to yourself. Mark each one with a simple X or symbol.

  3. Step back and watch the tide rolling in. Wave by wave, the water sweeps over your circle. The marks fade, the circle vanishes, and the sand becomes smooth and clear again.

  4. Breathe deeply. Notice how much lighter and freer you feel.

This is forgiveness in action. The events may still have happened, but they no longer weigh you down.

Final Thought

Carrying anger is like carrying a hot coal, hoping to throw it at someone else. But the one who gets burned first… is always you.

Forgiveness is how we finally put that coal down.

So next time anger rises, pause, breathe, and remember the beach. Let the tide do its work, and give yourself permission to feel lighter.

Ready to Go Deeper?

If anger, stress, or past hurts are holding you back, I can help. Through coaching, healing, and intuitive guidance, I work with clients to release what no longer serves them and step into a lighter, freer life.

Book a private session with me today:

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Together, we can turn anger into peace, and forgiveness into freedom. 

DEPRESSION Kills

DEPRESSION Kills

by | May 15, 2025 | Body, Mind, Soul

DEPRESSION Kills

 

DEPRESSION Kills

We hear reports around the globe of the many souls that suffer depression, because of overwhelming stress. With wars, poverty, and violence going on around us is it any wonder that depression is an issue? Statistics has proven that depression links to increased heart attacks and heart disease.

Researchers have not proved that depression is the cause of heart disease, but they do feel it is a contribution. Depression is also the root for suicidal increase. Yet the fatal mistake that doctors make is over medicating the patient.

Medications not only suppress the problem, but it contributes to medical issues. The result, the problem is still there. Everyday studies are finding new information and yet the information is often tossed to the backseat while traditional treatments continue.

New studies reveal that in contrast, intellectual and in depth, research coupled with insight helps scientist understand depression. After study the mental illness, closely they concluded in one study that depression is possibly linked to existing heart diseases.

With premature death-related to heart disease caused by premature changes in women. In other words, postmenopausal issues were said to be linked. After careful research, it was shown that antidepressant drugs might cause more harm to patients.

Observers that watched these women claimed that women were at higher risk of heart attacks while inducing antidepressants. The Archives of Internal Medicines after conducting surveys claimed that more than 90,000 women over the age of fifty and out of 16 percent suffered major depression.

This was half the women, and this half was taking antidepressants. The researchers continued their studies and found that postmenopausal women suffered depression, and because of taking antidepressants, over half the women were at risk of death related to heart diseases.

In 2003, new researchers concluded that the percentage of women at risk would also be subject to fractured bones, and that more than 8,000 women over 65 were prescribed medications and the medicines had affected the central nervous system. Researchers deduced that after taking prescribed drugs for five years the women were noticeably showing risks of fracturing bones, and those that did not take the drugs lived healthier lives.

After careful studies researchers concluded that, the prescribed drugs were the linking cause of psychical symptoms.

To reduce depression, one must exercise, eat healthy, write in journals, and use self-induced analytic profiling and evaluation of self. It is extremely important that a person come to understand their handicap and deal with it.

More studies have shown that when the spine is out of alignment, or injured that it links to depression, which is often caused by stress. Often when we visit our Chiropractor, he/she can help us to get our spine back in alignment, which has proven to relieve stress and depression.

Despite the studies that concluded that antidepressants could put a patient at risk, doctors around the globe, still take out their prescription pads and start writing. Often the problem is ignored, and blame is placed on the patients, while the doctors continue prescribing.

Now you must ask the question, are you at risk? If so, you need to take care that you consult with the proper physician. Ask him to monitor your issues carefully and sway him away from prescribing antidepressants.

Stay alert to your mental health and avoid floundering, as this contributes to depression. There are solutions to any problems that will work for you. Get out of the house and socialize. Take up a sport that you may enjoy. Read a damn good book or write one yourself. Writing is a gift, an art, and a contribution to Freedom of Speech; let the words flow.

As I analysed this distraction, I concluded, that depression is a mask of broken memories backed with links to medical issues formed and ignored. The spinal and nervous system are remarkably relative if not constituting the main cause of this distraction. What happens is people that suffer fail to exercise, sit straight, bend appropriately, and so forth. The result, the spine is dislocated. When the spine is out of line, problems will arise.

Having suffered myself from back issues I know that if my back is out of alignment, I do get grumpy, moody, and frustrated. I know some of the pain killers I was on were having effect on my mental health and I was not really moving forward, it was not till I took a more holistic approach all these years ago, that I started moving forward.

Depression can kill only if you let it!

However, you should know that medication may be only one part of the treatment puzzle.  You may also need to engage in talk therapy or join a support group in order to alleviate your symptoms.  The good news is that the prognosis is good for those who’ve been diagnosed with depression.

There are of course the holistic approaches, that can work with your drugs or can be used as an alternative, I have always believed, we need to work with the NHS and doctors and together we can help our clients to deal with anxiety.

There are many services we offer from Reiki healing, counselling, life coaching, Access Bars, NLP, Hypnotherapy, regression, TFT and many more..

Instead of just popping a pill why not come for a session and see how we can help you over come your challenges and find the root cause of your issues or the negative learnt behaviours you have created, yes you! As the only person that can help you is yourself, but we can give you the tools to succeed.

Book a session now and get back on that road to recovery!
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I Hold Diplomas in Life Coaching, Mindfulness based Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) advanced, Past life & this life regression, Hypnotherapy, also hold certificates in Reiki spiritual healing, advanced counselling. I am fully insured and follow national operational and ethical guidelines with in the laws of the UK.

Derek is often asked to do Motivational & Spiritual Workshops, Psychic shows and events with music from the past present & future.

His motto is ” Enlightening others to succeed through life’s challenges “

Combating Anxiety

Combating Anxiety

by | Jan 9, 2025 | Body, Mind, Soul

Combating Anxiety:  Will a Pill Do the Trick?

At certain points in your life, you might have been plagued with worry.  It might have been in the wake of beginning a marriage, starting a new career, or caring for a sick child.  The worry might have affected you not only emotionally but physically as well.  You might have experienced feelings of uneasiness, faintness, or breathing troubles.

There are degrees of severity when it comes to anxiety.  For instance, it can be mild, lasting only a day or two, or severe, lasting an entire month.  You might experience generalized anxiety disorder or something more specific such as phobias, panic, or post-traumatic stress disorder.

Anxiety might be treated with an anti-depressant or an anti-anxiety medication.  Generally speaking, there are three categories of anti-depressants:  selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors or SSRIs; tricyclics; and monoamine oxidase inhibitors or MAOIs.   SSRIs include Paxil, Prozac, and Zoloft.

These anti-depressants often have fewer side-effects than the older generation of anti-depressants.  Initially, you might feel nervous taking SSRIs, but the feeling often disappears after a few weeks.  One of the most important side-effects of these drugs is sexual dysfunction, which can often be corrected by changing the dosage.

Tricyclics tend to have side effects such as sleepiness, dizziness, and weight gain.  They are older than the SSRIs, so there has been more research conducted on them.  Meanwhile, MAOIs can cause a reaction if mixed with certain foods and drinks, such as cheese and wine.  These reactions can include increased blood pressure and other life-threatening problems.

Side-effects of anti-anxiety medications include fatigue, confusion, or drowsiness.    The medications may be taken two or three times a day or just when needed.  Dosage starts low then increases until symptoms disappear.  The amount of medication prescribed varies according to symptoms and a person’s body chemistry.   Doctors generally believe that you should not drink alcohol while taking anti-anxiety medication because the combination can create a life-threatening situation.

Because the medication can lead to dependence, the drugs are usually prescribed for only days or weeks at a time.  In fact, a user might be directed to take the medication only when symptoms of anxiety occur.  In some cases, individuals suffering from anxiety may need treatment for an extended period.

If you begin taking anti-anxiety medication, it is important that you stay on it until the doctor recommends that you stop taking it.  If you stop abruptly, you may experience anxiety, dizziness, or loss of appetite.  Common forms of anxiety medication include Valium, Ativan, and Xanax.

At times, physicians may prescribe beta-blockers to combat anxiety.  While beta-blockers such as propanolol may be used to deal with heart damage, they have also emerged as an effective treatment for social anxiety.  If you face a stressful situation, such as a job interview, your physician may give you a beta-blocker that can keep your palms from sweating, your head from swelling, and treat other symptoms of anxiety.

There are certain steps you should take before you begin a drug regimen for anxiety.  For instance, you should do your homework on the drug.  Find out what side-effects it causes, and determine whether you can live with those side-effects.  Also, you’ll need to inform your doctor of any over-the-counter medications you are using.  Be sure to find out how long you will have to take the drug.  You should realize that if you decide to stop taking the drug, you could find symptoms of anxiety reappearing.

If you’ve been diagnosed with anxiety, it can be a daunting experience.  You may not know where to go or who to turn to.  However, it’s best if you begin your search for treatment with your family physician, who can refer you to a psychiatrist if need be.  While any type of anxiety medication can lead to side-effects, many people report good experiences, particularly with SSRIs.  By working closely with your physician, you can find the medication that’s appropriate for you.

However, you should know that medication may be only one part of the treatment puzzle.  You may also need to engage in talk therapy or join a support group in order to alleviate your symptoms.  The good news is that the prognosis is good for those who’ve been diagnosed with anxiety.

There are of course the holistic approaches, that can work with your drugs or can be used as an alternative, I have always believed, we need to work with the NHS and doctors and together we can help our clients to deal with anxiety.

There are many services we offer from Reiki healing, counselling, life coaching, Access Bars, NLP, Hypnotherapy, regression, TFT and many more..

Instead of just popping a pill why not come for a session and see how we can help you over come your challenges and find the root cause of your issues or the negative learnt behaviours you have created, yes you! As the only person that can help you is yourself, but we can give you the tools to succeed.

Book a session now and get back on that road to recovery!
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Dealing with Rejection

Dealing with Rejection

by | Feb 19, 2024 | Mind, Soul

 
Dealing with rejection can be painful, whether it happens at work, at home, at school or in relationships.


Never allow others negative behaviours to put you off, your goals and dreams, just send them healing in the future as you will achieve great deeds by being positive, determined and loving person you are.


Rejection comes in many forms and it can be tempting to wallow in self-pity and despair when we have been rejected. Fortunately, there are things we can do that can help us handle rejection with dignity and purpose. Everyone experiences rejection – it is what we do in response that determines how we feel about ourselves. Rejection is scary, because it reminds us that we cannot control people and circumstances. Here are a few ideas of things we can do to overcome the rejection blues.

Be Aware of Your Emotions
Rejection is a form of loss, creating the sense of losing something we thought we had. Being rejected can feel like an outright violation of our expectations, which is why many of us feel offended when we are rejected. When the rejection is very painful or unexpected, it can be scary, making us feel as though the world we live in is unsafe and malevolent. When things do not go the way we expect, we often feel devastated and powerless, especially if we are very attached to a particular outcome.
We can acknowledge our loss, reminding ourselves that our feelings are never unacceptable or wrong, but they are also not entirely true. No matter how extreme or violent our feelings might seem, though, it is important to give ourselves the opportunity to experience them. Anger, sadness and disappointment are all natural responses when dealing with rejection. We can allow for our feelings, whatever they are, without holding onto them. We can let them come, and let them go.

Practice Acceptance
When rejection occurs, one of the ways many of us automatically respond is with denial. We may tell ourselves that this is not happening or that this is all a mistake that will soon be corrected. Denial is a mechanism of self-defence. We deny that something unpleasant is happening because the reality is too painful. We can gently correct ourselves by saying, “This is happening, and it will be okay. This does not mean that I am a bad person or that I have done something wrong.”

Talk to Someone You Trust
Another common impulse when dealing with rejection is to isolate and to cut ourselves off from support. This is another way that we unconsciously try to protect ourselves from more pain. Many of us equate relationships (revealing ourselves to others in work, love, family and friendships) with the disappointment that sometimes occurs in those relationships.

Take Action and Get Moving
It does not matter what we do, only that we take action and get moving. We can do dishes, pay bills, organise or finish up that work report we have been neglecting. Purposeful movement clears the mind of the stagnant energy and negative emotions that hang around when we are dealing with rejection. This is a perfect time to do something we have been putting off.

We are probably thinking, “What’s the use? I will still be miserable, and it will not change the fact that I have been dumped/passed over for that promotion/turned down by my number-one choice for college or school.” We can choose to think about it differently. We can be heartbroken in a messy living room that makes us feel even more miserable, or we can take constructive action that will likely lift our spirits and self-esteem.

Action has a wonderful way of breeding self-confidence and feelings of empowerment. You will feel less like a victim of your circumstances when you take action in an area you can actually control. Though it may sound like torture to suggest cleaning a closet after what feels like the most painful breakup in history the sooner we get moving, the better we will feel.

It is okay to resist for a while. As soon as we are ready, we can give it a try. If it still seems like an insurmountable, useless task, we can make a deal with ourselves to try it out for fifteen minutes. If we want to stop after 15 minutes, we can stop. But we usually find that the momentum of positive, productive energy created in just those 15 minutes is sufficient to make us want to keep going.

Be Kind to Yourself
One of the best times to do something nice for ourselves is when we are dealing with rejection. This serves a dual purpose: we get to do something enjoyable, and in so doing, we also prove to ourselves that we are worth the effort and attention. We can buy ourselves a special gift or get a massage, manicure and pedicure. We can set aside a day in the coming week to do whatever we want to do, whether that means browsing in a bookstore all afternoon sipping coffee, or losing ourselves in an art project. Planning ahead for “me” time brings with it the gift of something to look forward to, which makes difficult situations infinitely more bearable.

Be Kind to Someone Else
What it does mean, however, is that our thoughts colour our experiences. We have the power to use past success as evidence that future success is possible and, indeed, probable.

Rejection is a bitter pill to swallow. But its purpose is not gratuitous pain. If we have relationships with other people and if we regularly take risks, rejection is inevitable. Like any experience, rejection teaches a valuable lesson that we simply cannot learn any other way. We can always choose to see that value, although it may be difficult at first. Dealing with rejection in one area of life can teach us to deal more gracefully with our next experience of rejection in a completely different area. Lessons like these build on themselves. We can use our past experiences of rejection to make our future experiences less painful.



Whether it is a pet, a relative or a stranger, this strategy is particularly effective for coping with rejection. Focusing on someone else’s needs for a time reminds us that we are not the centre of the universe, and that our disappointments are not as devastating and all-encompassing as we make them out to be. Perhaps someone we love is ill, confined to home or hospital bed. We can ask if there is anything we might help that person with, being grateful for our health and our ability to offer help.

Feeling useful is a fail safe cure for self-pity. We can call a friend and ask how she is, without mentioning or complaining about our circumstances. Take the dog for an extra-long walk, or spend time snuggling with the cat – such small, loving actions centre us, bring us great comfort and remind us that we matter to other beings.

Reaffirm Your Successes
Rejection can make us feel as though we are failing, and can even lead us to falsely assume that not only have we failed, we are complete failures. Reminding ourselves of specific successes is a great way to remember our assets and accomplishments during a time when we are tempted to focus only on the negative. By focusing on the positive, we give it power in our minds, in our actions and ultimately in our circumstances. This does not mean that thinking positively will ensure that we never experience disappointment.

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