Death is Not The End

Death is Not The End

by | Sep 13, 2025 | Body, Mind, Soul

Death is not the end

Death Is Not the End: Healing Your Heart After Loss

By Derek McGillivray – A Happy Medium

Grief is something none of us are ever truly prepared for.
One moment life feels steady… and the next, it can be turned upside down by the loss of someone we love.

Recently, one of my clients lost her husband. She described feeling like she was walking through fog — broken-hearted, numb, and unsure how to move forward.

I wrote the following poem for her — and for anyone going through loss — as a reminder that death is not the end… and love never leaves us.

 A Healing Poem

When love is deep, it never dies,
It lingers softly, like the skies.
Though hands let go, and voices fade,
The bond you shared will never fray.

He walks beside you, day by day,
In whispered winds, in sunlit ray.
In quiet moments, when tears fall,
His love will gently hear your call.

Grief may ache, but time will show,
The seeds of love still bloom and grow.
Though paths divide, hearts intertwine,
His soul is yours, and yours is mine.

So take each step with gentle grace,
He shines through every sacred space.
Not gone, just moved—his spirit near,
Forever loved, forever here.

Understanding Grief

Grief can show up in so many ways — sadness, anger, guilt, numbness, or even laughter at old memories.
It’s not linear. Some days you may feel strong; others you may crumble. And that’s okay.

Here are a few gentle truths to hold onto:

  •  There is no “right” way to grieve. Everyone’s journey is unique.

  • There is no time limit on grief. Healing takes as long as it takes.

  •  It’s okay to ask for help — grief is heavy, and you don’t have to carry it alone.

  • Your loved one’s spirit and love remain — even if their physical presence is gone.

Holistic Ways to Support Your Healing

When you’re grieving, your mind, body, and soul are all affected. Holistic therapies can gently help you cope and find moments of peace as you move forward:

  • Reiki & Energy Healing — releases emotional blockages and brings deep relaxation

  • Reflexology or Foot Whispering — grounds your energy and calms your nervous system

  • Mindfulness & Meditation — creates safe spaces to feel and process emotions

  • Massage & Aromatherapy — nurtures the body when words aren’t enough

Holistic healing doesn’t erase grief… but it can bring balance back to your system, helping you find your feet again as you gently rebuild your life.

You Are Not Alone

Grief can feel isolating — but you are not alone, and support is out there whenever you need it.

Here are some wonderful organisations offering free bereavement help:

Moving Forward, Gently

Death is not the end.
It is simply a change of form.
The love you shared still lives within you — always.

If you would like gentle support, or to explore healing therapies to help you through this time, I am here for you.

derek@ahappymedium.co.uk
www.ahappymedium.co.uk
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You don’t have to walk this path alone.
Take your time.
Breathe.
And remember — love never leaves. 

Book a private session with me today:

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Together, we can turn anger into peace, and forgiveness into freedom.

999 portals

999 portals

by | Sep 9, 2025 | Body, Mind, News, Soul

The 999 Portal: Spirit’s Awakening Messages for Humanity

The 999 Portal: Spirit’s Awakening Messages for Humanity 

On the 9th of September 2025, we entered a 999 portal — a moment of profound spiritual significance. In numerology, 999 represents completion, endings, and the opening of a new chapter. It is also the vibration of awakening, global change, and stepping into higher service.

Over the past weeks, Spirit has been giving me visions — and today, they feel more connected than ever. I want to share them with you in full, because what’s unfolding in the world right now echoes them in uncanny ways.

Visions from Spirit

Rombo Quartz and Free Energy
I was shown crystals I call rombo quartz, filled with geometric codes. The message was clear: these are carriers of stored energy — a form of free energy that humanity will one day harness.

Med Beds and Healing
I saw healing chambers, often called med beds. They are real. They work with our natural energy fields, restoring balance, vitality, and harmony. Spirit says they will be rolled out when humanity is ready to use them responsibly.

Guardians of Ancient Knowledge
My visions took me to the Terracotta Army in China. But instead of statues guarding an emperor, I felt them as guardians of ancient wisdom and hidden technologies. They are protecting this knowledge until humanity can approach it with love, not greed.

Ships at Sea – Nations United
One night I saw fleets from every navy at sea, moving together — not for war, but for unity. It was a vision of nations coming together for the greater good. Spirit told me: even long-debated questions, like the nature of the Earth, will soon be answered in ways that unite us instead of divide us.

1789 – History Repeats
I kept being pulled to the year 1789. In France, that was the Revolution — people rising against corruption. In America, it was the beginning of the Constitution and Washington’s presidency — the foundation of democracy and liberty.

And now? In perfect synchronicity, the French government has collapsed, echoing that revolutionary cycle. Spirit is showing us: history is repeating, and we are at the cusp of another global reset.

The USA and Big Pharma
I was shown truths around vaccines and Big Pharma. Spirit’s message was: do not meet this with fear. Humanity has been deceived, yes, but the “good ones” knew, and much harm was prevented. The truth will surface, and when it does, it will awaken us further.

Antarctica & the Oceans
The flat Earth debate is a distraction. The real mysteries lie beyond Antarctica and beneath the seas. These are the glue — the hidden truths that will one day bring unity. I sense structures, crystalline energies, and technologies preserved under the oceans, waiting to return.

The Aquarian Age
And through it all, one word echoes: Aquarian. The Age of Aquarius. This is the time of collective awakening, higher consciousness, and unity. Earth is a special planet, and it will not be allowed to be destroyed.

The 999 Portal Meaning

Today’s 999 portal confirms everything Spirit has shown me:

  • Old cycles are ending.

  • Corruption and deception are collapsing.

  • Truths are surfacing.

  • Humanity is being called into its higher awakening.

Spirit’s reminder is simple: Conserve your energy. Don’t get lost in fear, anger, or drama. Rest, align with love, and trust the process.

A Collective Reading – 9 Cards for the 9th

To mark this 999 portal, I pulled 9 cards:

  • 5 Tarot cards — messages of cycles ending, awakening, and new opportunities rising.

  • 3 “What’s the Craic?” oracle cards — a reminder of our roots, humour, and resilience as we face change.

  • 1 final card — Spirit’s seal of confirmation.

 I’ll share the full meanings of these cards at the end of my YouTube video, so make sure you watch right through to the finish.

 Final Message

The Earth is awakening. Guardians are watching. Hidden truths are stirring. We are in the middle of a global reset — just as in 1789, but on a higher, spiritual scale.

The 999 portal is our reminder: the old is ending, and a new chapter is being written.

 If you’d like to explore your own gifts, join me at my Spiritual Development Course in Elgin on Saturday 14th September.
Full details: www.ahappymedium.co.uk/events

I also have Zoom sessions available this week if you’d like to begin your journey from home. Stay awake. Stay aligned. The signs are everywhere.

Book a private session with me today:

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Dealing with Anger using forgiveness

Dealing with Anger using forgiveness

by | Sep 8, 2025 | Mind, Soul

Dealing with Anger, Using Forgiveness.

Anger, Forgiveness, and the Power of Letting Go

Someone once said, “Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”
It’s a powerful image — and one that speaks to how many of us live our lives.

Anger itself isn’t “bad.” It’s a natural human emotion. In fact, it can even be useful. If someone cuts you off in traffic, or if a boundary has been crossed, anger alerts you that something’s wrong. But the real danger comes when we hold on to it.

When anger lingers for days, weeks, or even years, it doesn’t punish the other person. It punishes us.

How Anger Affects Us

  • Physically: Anger raises blood pressure, disrupts sleep, affects digestion, and weakens the immune system. Over time, it can contribute to serious health issues like heart disease and anxiety disorders.

  • Emotionally: It clouds judgment, fuels regret, and creates a constant sense of heaviness.

  • Relationally: Angry words said in the moment can damage trust and relationships for far longer than the outburst itself.

The truth is, your body keeps the score. Anger doesn’t just live in your head — it shows up in your chest, your gut, your heart, and your spirit.

The Cure: Forgiveness

Forgiveness doesn’t mean what happened was okay. It doesn’t excuse the action or let someone off the hook.

Forgiveness simply means: “I will not let this control me anymore.”

You can forgive the person, but not always the action. The only one who can forgive the action is them. But by forgiving, you free yourself. Forgiveness lowers stress, improves sleep, strengthens relationships, and brings peace back into your life.

A Simple Beach Meditation

Here’s a practice you can try right now to release anger and find forgiveness:

  1. Close your eyes and picture yourself standing on a beach — maybe Hopeman, here in Moray. The tide is out, the sun is shining, and you’ve got a stick in your hand.

  2. Draw a big circle in the sand. Inside that circle, imagine placing all the people, places, and situations that have made you angry. Add misunderstandings, regrets, or even harsh words you’ve said to yourself. Mark each one with a simple X or symbol.

  3. Step back and watch the tide rolling in. Wave by wave, the water sweeps over your circle. The marks fade, the circle vanishes, and the sand becomes smooth and clear again.

  4. Breathe deeply. Notice how much lighter and freer you feel.

This is forgiveness in action. The events may still have happened, but they no longer weigh you down.

Final Thought

Carrying anger is like carrying a hot coal, hoping to throw it at someone else. But the one who gets burned first… is always you.

Forgiveness is how we finally put that coal down.

So next time anger rises, pause, breathe, and remember the beach. Let the tide do its work, and give yourself permission to feel lighter.

Ready to Go Deeper?

If anger, stress, or past hurts are holding you back, I can help. Through coaching, healing, and intuitive guidance, I work with clients to release what no longer serves them and step into a lighter, freer life.

Book a private session with me today:

Subscribe to my YouTube channel for more insights, meditations, and spiritual guidance: @ahappymediumderek

Together, we can turn anger into peace, and forgiveness into freedom. 

September insights 2025

September insights 2025

by | Sep 1, 2025 | Mind, News

September insights from Derek

Anger, Forgiveness, and the Bigger Picture

Over the last few months, I’ve shared several channeled insights and predictions. Looking back now, many of those messages are starting to unfold in the world around us. I don’t share this to boast — but to encourage you to listen, reflect, and notice how these pieces connect.

Right now, between the conflicts across the globe, the political drama with leaders like Putin and Trump, and the endless debates over what is “normal” and what isn’t, it can feel as though humanity is losing its sense of direction. The energy of the Lionsgate portal stirred things up even more.

But here’s the truth I’ve been shown: it’s like watching a movie.

When we sit back in the cinema, we don’t climb into the screen and fight the actors — we watch, we learn, and we let the story unfold. Life is the same. If we get caught up in every scene with anger and frustration, we lose sight of the bigger picture.

The Danger of Anger

Anger is a natural emotion, but when we hold on to it, it becomes poison. It raises blood pressure, damages relationships, and blinds us to solutions. In truth, anger doesn’t punish the person we’re angry with — it punishes us.

That’s why forgiveness is so important. Forgiveness isn’t saying what happened was okay. It’s saying, I will not let this control me any longer. It sets us free, clears our hearts, and makes space for healing.

The Alien Connection

Many people are sensing something else too — the alien or dimensional connection. This isn’t about fear. It may not even be about classic UFO sightings. It can be as subtle as a shift in energy, a wave of heat or cold, or a gut feeling that something “other” is present. These beings are not here to frighten us, but to guide us, support us, and remind us that we are part of a vast, loving universe.

Remember Love

At the core of it all, the reminder is simple: we all come from the same source — unconditional love. If we choose love over anger, forgiveness over bitterness, and trust over fear, we will navigate these challenging times with far more ease.

Yes, difficult scenes are playing out on the world stage. But remember — it’s a movie. And like all good stories, light comes after the darkness. Good things are ahead.

So take a breath. Step back. Forgive. Love. And watch the story unfold.

Ketamine

Ketamine

by | Jul 10, 2025 | Body, Mind, News

Ketamine, Addiction & Finding Your Way Back

Breaking the Cycle: Ketamine, Addiction & Finding Your Way Back

Ketamine.
It starts out as a way to escape. A bit of fun. A coping tool.

But before you know it, the substance that numbed the pain becomes a source of it. You feel disconnected, low, stuck — and sometimes, ashamed. And if that’s where you are now, I want you to know: you are not alone.

Ketamine is addictive — let’s be real about it

There’s no point sugar-coating it. While ketamine has clinical use in pain relief and mental health treatment, outside a controlled environment, it can lead to:

  • Mental fog

  • Bladder and physical health issues

  • Emotional numbness and dissociation

  • Dependency and withdrawal

  • Loss of motivation, relationships, and identity

It becomes a cycle. You chase relief… but feel worse in the long run.

Addiction isn’t the problem — it’s the symptom

What I’ve found in my work is this: addiction is rarely about the substance.
It’s about what’s underneath — unprocessed trauma, stress, anxiety, loneliness, a deep unmet need for calm or control.

That’s why I don’t just work on “stopping the drug.”
I work with people to help them understand why they reached for it in the first place.

Using hypnotherapy, I guide clients into a relaxed state where we can access the subconscious mind — where the roots of addictive patterns often lie.
Then, through deep life coaching, we begin to gently build new behaviours, healthier coping tools, and a sense of purpose again.

How I can help

I offer:

  • Safe, non-judgmental 1-to-1 sessions (in person or online)

  • Hypnotherapy to break mental and emotional patterns

  • Deep life coaching to rebuild confidence, purpose and daily structure

  • Collaboration with other support services and local agencies

  • Step-by-step guidance without pressure or unrealistic promises

I won’t guarantee you’ll get off the drugs overnight — but I will help you help yourself.

Local support in Elgin, Moray & Scotland

Alongside my support, here are some local and national services that can help:

Elgin & Moray:

  • Arrows (Moray Wellbeing Hub – Substance Misuse Support)
    6 North Guildry Street, Elgin, IV30 1JR
    Tel: 01343 544 344
    www.moraywellbeinghub.org.uk

  • Quarriers Elgin Recovery Support Service
    Support with drug/alcohol recovery plans
    Tel: 01343 559900
    www.quarriers.org.uk

  • Turning Point Scotland – Elgin Services
    Substance misuse & mental health services in Moray
    Tel: 01343 552240
    www.turningpointscotland.com

Scotland-wide:

You don’t have to hit rock bottom — just take the first step

Addiction tells you you’re weak. But I’ve seen how wrong that is.

You’re not broken — you’re in pain.
And there’s a way back.

If you’re ready to make that change, or just want to have a conversation with someone who understands — I’m here.

Derek McGillivray – A Happy Medium
Based in Elgin, Moray | Online sessions available
www.ahappymedium.co.uk
derek@ahappymedium.co.uk
07468 119635

Holds Diplomas in Life Coaching, Mindfulness based Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) advanced, Past life & this life regression, Hypnotherapy, also hold certificates in Reiki spiritual healing, Addvanced counselling. Is fully insured and follows national operational and ethical guidelines with in the laws of the UK.

Derek is often asked to do Motivational & Spiritual Workshops, Psychic shows and events with music from the past present & future.

His motto is ” Enlightening others to succeed through life’s challenges ”